Z is for Zutto

​‘Z is for Zutto, Always and Forever’ is Week 25 of Blogging Through the Alphabet 26 Keys to My Happy Marriage Depending on who I ask, zutto means somewhere between always and forever in Japanese. For my purposes, the exact meaning isn’t that important as the two options are interchangeable for my purposes. Zutto, to me, stands for the state of the relationship between my husband and me. As a couple, we are forever. Our relationship is always. It feels, after knowing him for more than 30 years, that he has been with me always. We really are two that have become one. And foreverRead More →

Y is for Yon Time

​‘Y is for Yon Time’ is Week 25 of Blogging Through the Alphabet 26 Keys to My Happy Marriage My husband wakes each morning early in the ‘yon time’ and heads off to work. It is dark when he leaves, very dark. He gets up long before most of us wake, and shortly after we go to bed, so that he can keep us fed and happy and comfortable. Ten hours later he returns, worn and a bit slow. Life is hard when you live it in the ‘yon time’. What is ‘Yon Time’? In Scottish, yon time is late in the evening. I thinkRead More →

​‘X is for Unknown’ is Week 24 of Blogging Through the Alphabet 26 Keys to My Happy Marriage The letter X means so many things. It marks the spot. It is a sacred symbol, combined with a ‘p’ for Christ. In math, X, means unknown. And I think that all three of these meanings are related and combine when I think of marriage. X is a marvelous letter and is much like any marriage – filled with unknowns. How happy will we be? Will we experience great sadness? Will we come together to overcome great hardship? Will our family thrive? We Begin Marriage Filled withRead More →

‘W is for We’ is Week 23 of Blogging Through the Alphabet 26 Keys to My Happy Marriage Every so often I find myself worrying in the early hours when my husband is at work and the kids are still sleeping. So many other families I know run through seasons of tragedy. A husband is seriously hurt, others pass away unexpectedly, and the families are left to cope without him. That is such a terrible thought. What would I do if I were alone tomorrow? How would I manage? Or could I? The other morning while running my mind down this now familiar track, IRead More →

‘V is for Verily’ is Week 22 of Blogging Through the Alphabet 26 Keys to My Happy Marriage Verily. I love that word, but for a long time I couldn’t tell you why. Every night I sit and listen to my husband read the Bible to me in the evenings. Every night there will invariably be a “Verily”. And it got me thinking. Why does it seem like Jesus is the only one to say “Verily”? He says it so often and with such certainty that if you sit and listen to someone read to you, the word will pop out. In the Book ofRead More →

‘U is for Undercover Operation’ is Week 21 of Blogging Through the Alphabet 26 Keys to My Happy Marriage Do you ever feel that your relationship is an undercover operation? Here is a scenario: You and your husband have a difference of opinion. You are about to start the discussion, and in walks one of your kids. Now what do you do? A child’s radar seems eternally tuned to parental disagreements, doesn’t it? Why don’t we like to discuss issues involving conflicting opinions in front of our children? What are we afraid of, really? For many years my husband and I would retreat to ourRead More →

‘T is for Tape ’ is Week 20 of Blogging Through the Alphabet 26 Keys to My Happy Marriage   Ok, I am sure you are thinking, “That it! She has officially gone off her rocker! How can Tape be a key to her happy marriage?” Well, you might be right about the rocker thing, but I did not fall off recently so give me a moment to explain. Actually tape is important to my marriage. Not the actual sticky stuff, but the results set into motion by the act of taping. So, what does taping two things together really mean? When you tape something,Read More →

‘S is for Sanctuary ’ is Week 19 of Blogging Through the Alphabet 26 Keys to My Happy Marriage   Some days I need a sanctuary. Some days, nothing goes right. And some days terrible knocks at my door. Do you ever feel like you need to find a quiet and safe place, away from all the people and events in your life that banded together in a seemingly concerted agenda to derail and disturb you. There are days in my life that feel that way. Not many, but it does happen. Before I met my husband, those were the hardest kinds of days. I hadRead More →

​’R is for Lesser Rocks & Monsters’ is Week 18 of Blogging Through the Alphabet 26 Keys to My Happy Marriage   The Bible Led Me To Rocks This morning I settled down, with a steaming cup of coffee, into my comfortable chair, long before the kids were up,  and opened our bible. I say ‘our bible’ because my husband and I decided a while back that we wanted to share. Sharing a bible is a way that we declare to each other that the most precious things we own are those we share. Mostly those are relationships with each other and our children, butRead More →

Q is for Quell, Quip, and Quorum

​’Q is for Quell, Quip, and Quorum’ is Week 17 of Blogging Through the Alphabet 26 Keys to My Happy Marriage. This week three words held equal weight for me. They are Quip, Quell, and Quorum. And somehow they all relate to marriage. Quell – I am generally the one who quells discord between us. (I think every marriage encounters discord) My husband quells my fears. That one aspect of our relationship is probably the single biggest salvation to my sanity. Who quells the turmoil in your marriage? Quip – OK, mostly I just love this word because of the way is sounds. But whatRead More →